I just had a conversation with a friend about relationships and marriage. ..
You see, Rob and I want to get married maybe in two years time or next year if possibleâ¦
I wanted toâ¦ I think that is the next level for me since we are living together, why not make it legal right? I asked myself and smiledâ¦
A few seconds, the smile was replaced with fear when a thought came to mind —-MY MOM—–
I remember when I was in my puberty stage, my mom would always tell me that boys are liars and should never be trusted (how come we trust my brother so much and so is my dad??) She said they will only make you cry.
I didnât mind what she said and went on from one relationship to another (without her knowing it! â Iâd be dead by now if she knew anything about it) True enough, I got hurt but most of the time happy.
One day, she asked me if I was having a relationship with someone â¦ (It could be motherâs instincts — why she asked)â¦ I LIED. I told her I donât have.
A few years passed, I got up all my courage to tell my parents about my relationship with Rob (it was when we were just starting â imagine this, weâre in our fourth year now going to our fifth next year.
My mom almost fell from her seat while my dad was totally cool about it. She kept on bugging me with questions like how old is he, where does he work â¦ Finally; she says this, âBakit ang tanda??? Lolokohin k a lng nyan. Ikaw naman si tanga, magpapaloko ka!â
This is one of the reasons why I donât like opening up with my mom especially about relationships. I donât want to judge her but my mom is not open with this kind of conversation.
Now, Iâm planning to tell my mom about itâ¦ Our plans, my plansâ¦ I think I need to do thisâ¦. No, I have to.
I know I owe my life to my mom but does that give her the right to choose whatâs best for me? To choose who I should love and who I should not?
I love my momâ¦ actually, I love them bothâ¦.
Now, before you get the misconception, my parents donât really choose ALL the time — just MOST of the timeâ¦ but stillâ¦
Right now, several scenes are playing inside my head on how Iâd introduce Robâ¦